My Rock

when simon commented on my previous post  , it just put back the smile on my face. “It is God’s will that the diamond dropped off; because your marriage has grown, and so will the diamond.” true, it is God’s Will tht the stone has dropped off to dunno where but time for my husband to buy me a new one? wishful thinking anyhoo, tht’s not really important anymore. most importantly we survived this marriage despite the many trials & tribulations.

come to think of it, we got hitched, (back in 1993) forced by circumstances. nope, its not what you think. we were not ready then. His elder brother was getting a new hse with his wife to be then. & so he wanted to sell their current home which was under his name & my father-in-law’s. all panicky since the selfish man wants to get rid of his parents & the poor younger bro(andrew). to resolve the problem, andrew must quickly look for a place. so i kena the scapegoat la. so yeah, there’s no romantic proposal or what not. it’s more like, ” charles is getting married soon & he’s seling the house so we need to find a place of our own.” everthing happened so fast & before i knew it, we’ve fixed the date & few mths later got registered & few mths later we’ve already moved into our new hse. but i still stayed with my own parent la, no custom marriage yet mah… just andrew & his parents only.  so, you see, why i said it’s forced by circumstances? 1st we were not ready, 2nd we dont have much savings. worst part was we were not eligible for govt flat coz our (myself & andrew’s) joined income has reached over $7,000 ceiling! i still dont understand that stupid rule. what the …..(we thot). so, once again, we were forced to get the private ones. thank goodness then, we were allowed to take 100% loan. so, we were fortunate we dont need to find ‘tailong’ (loanshark) to get help or anybody else in our family members. with everything thats going on, we cant afford to have a customery marriage… until 5 years later….

along the line, we went nearly bankrupt due to our foolish act in wanting to make more money, i nearly lost andrew due to pancreatitis. we almost thot that we’ll be childless (only had randy after 4 yrs of marriage). imagine the pressure & all the blame games. indeed, my marriage has really grown. so looking back, despite all the many challenges in our marriage, i praise God we’ve managed to pull thru every each one of them. we’ve been there for each other & most importantly we did not given up on each other.

yesterday was our 9th year wedding anniversary. I just want to praise & thank God for being in the centre of our marriage all this while. may He continue to bless & strengthen our marriage with many more blissful years to come. so what if i’ve lost the stupid stone, as long as i do not lose focus on Him, my Creator & as long i know i’ll wake up every morning with my husband lying in bed beside me for the rest of my life, nothing else should matter anymore…cos he IS my rock!

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